Some Mothers do ‘ave ‘Em

This year, Mother’s Day falls on Sunday March 14th. In some countries, it follows the old traditions of Mothering Sunday which is a Christian festival celebrating the mother church throughout Europe. It generally falls on the 4th Sunday of Lent. Secularly, Mothering Sunday became a celebration of motherhood. Eventually, the two more or less combined, along with other celebrations (Simnel Sunday, Refreshment Sunday, Rose Sunday) into Mother’s Day. As we are well aware, it has become very commercial in Ireland, along with Valentine’s Day and Father’s Day.

The Golden Pages blog reads: “It’s time to start thinking about what you’re going to do to celebrate this day – whether you’re planning on treating your Mum to a beautiful bouquet of flowers, lunch or dinner in her favourite restaurant, a special gift, a day or relaxation in her local beauty salon or spa, or maybe even a night away in a hotel”.

Don’t you just love the guidance of the comment above? So, have you bought your flowers, chocolates, dinner or spa day yet for your mum?

“When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child” – Sophia Loren

Mother’s Day always sparks feelings of delight, expectation, smaller work-load for one day, breakfast in bed, homemade cards and acts of kindness by children. It is, however, a day of great sadness for some mothers. What about a thought for those who dread the day? The women who cannot or could not have children? The mother who has lost or is losing a child? The mother who never knew her child? The mother who had to give her child away?

This is a day to be celebrated for the hard work and dedication of mothers globally. Some mothers will reminisce about the great years they had bringing up their children, watching every area of growth, first-everythings. Some mothers will only have sadness in their hearts when they remember the times they missed a first-something because they were not present. Or the days they could not afford to feed their child, or the one day they were not able to protect their child.

These women still need to be celebrated for the positive part they did play in a child’s life. These women deserve recognition that they are still a mother, because those instincts do not die when a child passes on or evaporate when a child is moved away. It’s a difficult day for some mothers, and the world would do well to recognise that.

On the other hand, what does being a mother actually entail? Does a woman have to give birth to a child to be recognised for the love, support and adoration that is given to another person? Both foster mothers and adoption mothers are adorned with the love and attention on Mother’s Day, just as a birth mother is, but there are many women out there who “mother” and simply because those that they care for are not their own offspring, may not be pampered and thanked this weekend.

It’s important with this special day on Sunday fast approaching, that we share some thoughts for the non-conventional mothers of the world – those that care for others who are not their own. Be they grand mothers, aunts, god mothers, friends, mother-in-laws, daughters etc. let us celebrate them this Sunday with a good wish or token of some kind. Let us demonstrate appreciation and admiration where due.

…and remember that behind every successful woman……is a basket of dirty laundry.

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  • March 12, 2010 at 2:37 pm

    Thanks for the reminder about all the ‘non-conventional’ mothers out there who also nurture and care for those around us.

    We should also celebrate them as well!

    • March 14, 2010 at 12:47 pm

      Hi Keith,
      Absolutely, we can so often get caught up in the generalisation of celebrating people, and forget that many people fit into these “categories” even though they don’t fit the profile. We should also celebrate the mums who aren’t with us anymore, but are not forgotten by those whom were touched by their love, kindness and nurturing.

  • March 12, 2010 at 12:09 pm

    I am so touched by this post Elaine – thank you for posting with such compassion and understanding.

    • March 12, 2010 at 12:15 pm

      Marie, thanks so much for stopping by.
      You actually inspired some of the thoughts that went into the post. Ironically, it began as a funny post and the fingers just took over! So I let it be and published the first draft. It was now so worth it, thanks 🙂

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