Our guest post today is from the wonderful Val Mulally, international Parenting expert, author of “Behave – What to do when your child won’t“, and founder of Koemba Parenting. Val has been running courses in Ireland for many years, and is launching her successful Parenting programme based on the book, in an evergreen online format. She shares with us today her insights into balancing parenting with running a business:
Parenting versus working?
- Are you a busy entrepreneur?
- Are you juggling parenting within your busy schedule?
- Are you wondering, ‘How do I meet my children’s needs as well as develop a successful business?’
When we’re under pressure at work, it’s easy to put family on the back burner. It’s easy to think, ‘I’ll put energy into the family later.’
Every wise parent knows you can’t afford to leave your kids till later, no matter how great the work challenges, because your kids are growing as fast as the spring grass shooting under your feet and they need your parenting now! And when they’re acting out it’s often a signal, ‘I need more of you!’ That’s so hard for the parent who needs to be investing time and energy to get the business flying.
The good news is that this doesn’t need to be an ‘either/or’ situation. We often talk about life-work balance but as Mindfulness expert Janice Marturano¹ states:
There is no work-life balance. We have one life. What’s important is that we are awake for it.
The coaching parent
With a coaching approach to parenting, you discover that when you pay attention to how you are parenting, you also become more awake to your relationship with yourself and with others too. And because all successful business is about relationships, your new-found parenting skills and insights can directly benefit your business too!
Jane² is self-employed. She was finding it hard to juggle her three children’s needs together with all she needed to do in her newly launched business. It wasn’t until her middle child’s challenging behaviour was pushing her buttons so badly that in desperation she looked for help. She signed up to a Koemba parenting programme, and within weeks, she found herself to be more conscious of how she interacted with her children and the result was less chaos and more calm in the home.
She discovered that it’s possible to be a conscious parent, better tuned in to herself and to her children, by keeping in mind the three Koemba signposts that guide her in the moment-by-moment parenting. She loved learning key insights into neuroscience. Understanding what was going on in the brain, especially when she hit conflict with the kids, meant she knew what she could do differently that would create a different result. It wasn’t about doing a 180-degree turn, but rather it was about becoming more tuned in to her children and to herself in the little day-to-day interactions.
‘For instance, ‘ says Jane. ‘When my daughter begins acting out, I keep the first signpost in mind – HALT.
- I ask myself: ‘Is she Hungry, Angry or Anxious, Lonely, ill or Tired?
- I also ask myself the same question? ‘Am I Hungry, Angry or Anxious, Lonely, ill or Tired?’
When I quickly run these questions through my head, I’m able to respond to what’s really needed, instead of winding her up and winding myself up. It’s amazing what a difference that one signpost makes. We immediately started noticing a difference in the home.’
Learning better parenting skills transfers to better business
But what amazed Jane was that she is also doing better at work because her newly developed insights are positively impacting how she interacts with her staff and with her clients. ‘HALT doesn’t just apply at home; it applies at work too. Whether it’s a situation where previously I might get wound up, or when a staff member or a customer is upset, I’ve discovered the secret of responding rather than reacting – and it’s making the difference.
‘Doing a Koemba Parenting course has been a huge benefit to me. We’re better tuned in to our kids and there are far fewer upsets. Home is much happier now. This directly impacts my interactions at work. I am calmer and more focused. The parenting skills I’ve gained have helped me be a better boss. What I learnt on the Parenting course I use in my staff reviews all the time, and I’ve discovered that when I am dealing with a difficult customer I have hugely helpful tools to resolve challenging issues. It’s incredible how the Koemba skills transfer from the family to the workplace.
‘Now that we have happier home, I am less stressed and I have more energy to focus on being the parent I want to be, as well as creating my dream business. Doing a Koemba Parenting course is one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. It’s a win-win solution!’
Koemba Online Parenting course with Val Mullally
If you are a busy entrepreneur or business owner, the good news is that you can now discover the Koemba approach to Parenting because Val Mullally, international Parenting expert, author and founder of Koemba Parenting, is launching her successful Parenting programme in an online format: BEHAVE – What To Do When Your Child Won’t (affiliate link).
BEHAVE – What To Do When Your Child Won’t
Sign up now to save $33 with launch discount. Usual price $117. Now only $84. This price ALSO includes FREE membership for 3 months to an exclusive online group with Parenting expert & author Val Mullally. And the good news is it is an evergreen course, so you can benefit from the launch special price now and start the course when and where it suits you, and return to the material as often as you choose. This special price is for a limited period only.
- Top Photo: http://pixabay.com/en/woman-girl-child-parent-child-love-538396/
- ¹ Quoted in ‘Thrive’ by Arianna Huffington
- ² Used with permission. Jane’s name changed to protect her identity.